On Tattoos

I am still undecided on whether or not I should be getting a tattoo….

The fantasies of the entire process: selecting the design, going to the tattoo shop with a friend, feeling of something sharp grazing my skin, getting decorated… these are often very intoxicating fantasies.

I frequent ladies only spa, also known as naked ladies spa, and I see a lot of tattooed women of different ages, shapes, and sizes. I look at their tattoos, and I am overcome with almost palpable desire to have one on my own body. My very own tattoo….

Update

It is a shame not to invest more time into such a notable attempt as blogging on behalf of kinky frum Jews.  As one of the contributors, I shall do my best to improve things, and truly to work on the blog.  If anyone else is interested in becoming a full blown contributor, please e-mail us, and let’s get the party going!!!

Apologies

The moderators of this blog would like to apologize to all visitors.  Unfortunately we and our schedules are stretched to our limits with other activities, (not nearly as interesting as blogging).  Please stay tuned for fresh activities …coming this way shortly!

BDSM in Jewish wedding

Imagine that you are Jewish and observant, and that you are into BDSM, both domination/submission and physical play. Imagine further that you have found a partner with complimentary interests, that you have been seeing each other for a while, and have decided to get married. Mazal tov! So you are planning a traditional Jewish wedding.

Would you want the submissive/bottom person to wear something BDSM-ish during the ceremony? Would you want them to wear a collar (concealed)? Would you want them to have something sexual or uncomfortable/painful going on under their clothes? What about the dominant/top person?

Another Question

 

The seminary I attended tried very hard to instill the concept of tzniut (modesty) among the girls. Side point, I have this paranoid idea that the seminary failed with me, or maybe it is I who failed the seminary? Aside frrom learning the laws of tzniut as they are relevant to clothes a woman wears, we also learned about behaving modestly in a privacy of our houses. One of the rav stated that it would be highly immodest for a person to be in a living room wearing pajama; reason being is that there are probably Torah books in the living room, and it would be disrespectful and immodest to ward holy books to walk around less than fully clothed. Does that mean that a couple can never start foreplay in the living room before taking it to the bedroom? Does being frum equal to sex in a bedroom only?

Question

Why is tattooing oneself is prohibited, but branding is allowed?  Either choice of body modification will leave a permanent mark on the skin.

Needah and Dominance

The rules concerning menstruation and needah (as I understand it) require the woman to tell the man when she has become needah and they can’t have sex, then to tell him when she has dunked in the mikvah and they can have sex. If there is a dom/sub aspect to the relationship and the woman is dominant, this works out nicely — she tells him when they can and cannot have sex. If, however, there is a dom/sub aspect to the relationship and the man is dominant, it doesn’t fit in so well to have the woman (submissive, slave, sextoy) tell the man (dominant, master) when they can and cannot have sex. So, how do people handle this?

One approach is to say that she is just providing factual info — her flow has started, she has dunked. What he does with that info is up to him. This is like an SM situation where the bottom tells the top “I am getting close to my limit.” The top might ease off or stop, or might decide to drive the bottom to safeword. The problem here is that if both of the people are observant, then clearly the dom is not going to decide to have sex with the sub when she is needah, so we are back to her effectively telling him when they can and cannot have sex. So again, how do people handle this?

Looking forward to hearing people’s thoughts and discussion.

When I was a kid…

It was common knowledge that the Cherem – Excommunicatory Ban against polygamy instituted by R. Gershom* was only going to be enforced for One Thousand Years. How come no one announced when it ended, and how come no one celebrated?

*German rabbi, scholar, and religious poet Gershom ben Judah (ca. 950-1028) exerted a great influence on Jewish social institutions. He is also known as Rabbenu Gershom and Meor Ha-Golah, “Light of the Exile.” 

Who’s Kinky?

Some of the uptightest (unfortunate word choice, perhaps) badass frumies I know are ftm shomer negiah – ba’al teshuvas. They’re welcome here too, of course, and I hope this becomes their preferred trans shiduch site. Surely, there can’t be that many other sites, can there? I know that Frumster.com does not yet have a category of the transgendered. Anyway, back to the point I was making. Is transgender a kink by definition, and should it be included in under the general rubric of kink; whaddya think?

Welcome

Phew… Now that all the editing/testing is done, let the blogging begin. Ha, I just had a moment of Freudian slip; caught myself typing “begging” instead of “begin.” Begging can be fun, especially when the act of begging gets me what I want to begin with. It is getting to be too many “beggings” and “begins.” I think it is time to get on with making a point instead of beating around the bush.

I would like to officially welcome everyone (and everyone means you, oh dear reader) to the blog. I hope this blog will blossom into a meaningful web tool that allows for deep, fun, and honest discussions.