Comments on: Who’s Kinky? http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/ A place for the kinky frumsters to safely be themselves. Yep, that is right, you can stop pretending at least for a bit! Tue, 25 Mar 2008 23:32:48 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Hal http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-32 Hal Tue, 25 Mar 2008 23:32:48 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-32 So mongojerry2, how is it going with you and your wife/submissive? Is she still waiting for an orgasm. If not, how long did she wait, and what made you decide to end the waiting? How did it go, or how is it going? Would you and she do it again? What would you-all do differently? So mongojerry2, how is it going with you and your wife/submissive? Is she still waiting for an orgasm. If not, how long did she wait, and what made you decide to end the waiting? How did it go, or how is it going? Would you and she do it again? What would you-all do differently?

]]> By: hadassaslut http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-31 hadassaslut Fri, 21 Dec 2007 18:12:45 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-31 I would love to speak to other frum women who are bottoms. It would be nice to share and learn. I always feel somewhat guilty thinking that I am violating halacha. I would love to speak to other frum women who are bottoms. It would be nice to share and learn. I always feel somewhat guilty thinking that I am violating halacha.

]]> By: kinkyshiduchin http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-30 kinkyshiduchin Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:38:04 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-30 I want to add my $.02 to Reb Mongojerry's comments. It's one of my favorite ploys as a Dom to deny orgasms as an act of both control and sadism. Especially when a woman is used to regular masturbation. So, when I meet someone new who wants to be considered for play or ownership, I'm likely to say, "OK, for the next 90 days don't even ask me me for permission to cum. We'll revisit this when you're ready." Of course, I never actually spell out clearly to her what 'ready' means, so she fantasizes about discovering my secrets and reasons and logic. It heats her brain up nicely. Which gives me an excuse for giving her more cooling rituals to perform. Needless to say, none of them work. Sadism when practised with humor, I find, brings the most satisfaction. BDSM without a grain of laughter is too grave and heavy. (If you can't make a Choizik of yourself while hitting a bottom with a flogger, you're asking for the Sitra Achara to join) Even bloodletting sadism is redeemed through levity. As G.K.Chesterton noted wryly, "Satan fell by force of gravity." I want to add my $.02 to Reb Mongojerry’s comments. It’s one of my favorite ploys as a Dom to deny orgasms as an act of both control and sadism. Especially when a woman is used to regular masturbation. So, when I meet someone new who wants to be considered for play or ownership, I’m likely to say, “OK, for the next 90 days don’t even ask me me for permission to cum. We’ll revisit this when you’re ready.”

Of course, I never actually spell out clearly to her what ‘ready’ means, so she fantasizes about discovering my secrets and reasons and logic. It heats her brain up nicely. Which gives me an excuse for giving her more cooling rituals to perform. Needless to say, none of them work. Sadism when practised with humor, I find, brings the most satisfaction. BDSM without a grain of laughter is too grave and heavy. (If you can’t make a Choizik of yourself while hitting a bottom with a flogger, you’re asking for the Sitra Achara to join) Even bloodletting sadism is redeemed through levity. As G.K.Chesterton noted wryly, “Satan fell by force of gravity.”

]]> By: danin6 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-29 danin6 Mon, 26 Nov 2007 06:10:11 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-29 As i have written,we are frum as well ,but my wife is a pure shifcha. We have been to events posted in kinky jews .com and really have two lives. My shifcha is a total sub,and even calls me in the middle of her teaching at school to get her orders for the day. Please feel free to ask anything. I love telling about this ,and I wish there were more frum couples here As i have written,we are frum as well ,but my wife is a pure shifcha. We have been to events posted in kinky jews .com and really have two lives. My shifcha is a total sub,and even calls me in the middle of her teaching at school to get her orders for the day. Please feel free to ask anything. I love telling about this ,and I wish there were more frum couples here

]]> By: mongojerry2 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-28 mongojerry2 Tue, 20 Nov 2007 04:39:13 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-28 Hal-- On a practical level she is not allowed to cum without permission. When something is happening that gets her close she asks for permission. If I gave her permission she could bring herself off in prvate but I don't. Obviously this is ultimately predicated on trust but that's always true of BDSM arrangements and I have no doubt that she has not cheated (except the one time she did and she promptly told me about it). We started down this path about 3 years ago and it's been great. I get Dom rush out of it and she gets sub rush. :) Of course there are a few obvious benefits to keeping her sexually charged ;). Additionally, it serves to extend our kinky sexual play beyond individual encounters. Even after a given scene is over my control over her sexuality continues which provides an ongoing charge even between scenes (and being busy parents with plentyof vanilla real life there's lots of between scenes). There are indeed times when it gets not interesting for a while but we can get it charged back up right quick, especially with her being aroused without release for so long. This current period is by far the longest we've ever gone--it's an experiment of sorts--no one should misunderstand--I love getting her off and really don't usually go beyond a few weeks at most without doing so but as I said, we're currently playing with some new ideas that have kept her unfulfilled as it were since July. For more info, you might look here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_sexual_denial Hal–

On a practical level she is not allowed to cum without permission. When something is happening that gets her close she asks for permission. If I gave her permission she could bring herself off in prvate but I don’t. Obviously this is ultimately predicated on trust but that’s always true of BDSM arrangements and I have no doubt that she has not cheated (except the one time she did and she promptly told me about it). We started down this path about 3 years ago and it’s been great.

I get Dom rush out of it and she gets sub rush. :) Of course there are a few obvious benefits to keeping her sexually charged ;) . Additionally, it serves to extend our kinky sexual play beyond individual encounters. Even after a given scene is over my control over her sexuality continues which provides an ongoing charge even between scenes (and being busy parents with plentyof vanilla real life there’s lots of between scenes).

There are indeed times when it gets not interesting for a while but we can get it charged back up right quick, especially with her being aroused without release for so long. This current period is by far the longest we’ve ever gone–it’s an experiment of sorts–no one should misunderstand–I love getting her off and really don’t usually go beyond a few weeks at most without doing so but as I said, we’re currently playing with some new ideas that have kept her unfulfilled as it were since July.

For more info, you might look here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_sexual_denial

]]> By: Hal http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-27 Hal Sun, 18 Nov 2007 03:52:26 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-27 danin6 -- please tell us more about your adventures. Thanks. danin6 — please tell us more about your adventures. Thanks.

]]> By: Hal http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-26 Hal Sun, 18 Nov 2007 03:50:50 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-26 mongojerry2 your story is quite interesting. This control of orgasms, how does it work on a practical level? What do you get out of it? What does she get out of it? After so long, doesn't it just get to be the usual thing and stop being interesting? mongojerry2 your story is quite interesting. This control of orgasms, how does it work on a practical level? What do you get out of it? What does she get out of it? After so long, doesn’t it just get to be the usual thing and stop being interesting?

]]> By: mongojerry2 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-25 mongojerry2 Tue, 13 Nov 2007 20:19:10 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-25 What an interesting blog--like a poster above I've always maintained a separation between Judaism and BDSM. The integration here is more than a little compelling. To answer the question above, yes, there are other frum couples that understand. Well, one, at least--us. Married a little less than 15 years, 3 kids, shomer shabbat, kashrut, taharat hamishpacha, BDSM/power exchange the whole time, deeper into her submission/my dominance all the time. Our emphasis is on sexual control (at the moment she hasn't been allowed to cum since July but that's another story. Or is it?). Like, I suspect, most, we haven't had much (any) opportunity to discuss BDSM with observant/knowledgeable Jews--this site seems more than a little interesting. Hasn't been much activity here--anyone still here? Where's everyone from? One other question--what is the history of this blog? It was recently linked from kinkyjews.com What an interesting blog–like a poster above I’ve always maintained a separation between Judaism and BDSM. The integration here is more than a little compelling. To answer the question above, yes, there are other frum couples that understand. Well, one, at least–us. Married a little less than 15 years, 3 kids, shomer shabbat, kashrut, taharat hamishpacha, BDSM/power exchange the whole time, deeper into her submission/my dominance all the time. Our emphasis is on sexual control (at the moment she hasn’t been allowed to cum since July but that’s another story. Or is it?). Like, I suspect, most, we haven’t had much (any) opportunity to discuss BDSM with observant/knowledgeable Jews–this site seems more than a little interesting.

Hasn’t been much activity here–anyone still here? Where’s everyone from?

One other question–what is the history of this blog? It was recently linked from kinkyjews.com

]]> By: shifcha http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-20 shifcha Sun, 02 Sep 2007 22:57:12 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-20 I know of other couples, frum and otherwise. I know of other couples, frum and otherwise.

]]> By: danin6 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-19 danin6 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 11:07:41 +0000 http://kinkyshiduchin.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/34/#comment-19 Our story is long, so I will tell it as time goes on. Basically my wife/slave is a full time teacher in a frum day school during school hours and a shifcha when i get home and on weekends. Her favorite on Friday night is to be roped to the bed face down, naked while I treat her behind with spanking and inserting different objects. She also wears her nipple clamps under her shabbos dress. Are there any other frum kinky couples or singles out there that understand us? Our story is long, so I will tell it as time goes on. Basically my wife/slave is a full time teacher in a frum day school during school hours and a shifcha when i get home and on weekends. Her favorite on Friday night is to be roped to the bed face down, naked while I treat her behind with spanking and inserting different objects. She also wears her nipple clamps under her shabbos dress.

Are there any other frum kinky couples or singles out there that understand us?

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