Category Archives: Judaism

On Tattoos

I am still undecided on whether or not I should be getting a tattoo….

The fantasies of the entire process: selecting the design, going to the tattoo shop with a friend, feeling of something sharp grazing my skin, getting decorated… these are often very intoxicating fantasies.

I frequent ladies only spa, also known as naked ladies spa, and I see a lot of tattooed women of different ages, shapes, and sizes. I look at their tattoos, and I am overcome with almost palpable desire to have one on my own body. My very own tattoo….



It is a shame not to invest more time into such a notable attempt as blogging on behalf of kinky frum Jews.  As one of the contributors, I shall do my best to improve things, and truly to work on the blog.  If anyone else is interested in becoming a full blown contributor, please e-mail us, and let’s get the party going!!!

Another Question


The seminary I attended tried very hard to instill the concept of tzniut (modesty) among the girls. Side point, I have this paranoid idea that the seminary failed with me, or maybe it is I who failed the seminary? Aside frrom learning the laws of tzniut as they are relevant to clothes a woman wears, we also learned about behaving modestly in a privacy of our houses. One of the rav stated that it would be highly immodest for a person to be in a living room wearing pajama; reason being is that there are probably Torah books in the living room, and it would be disrespectful and immodest to ward holy books to walk around less than fully clothed. Does that mean that a couple can never start foreplay in the living room before taking it to the bedroom? Does being frum equal to sex in a bedroom only?

When I was a kid…

It was common knowledge that the Cherem – Excommunicatory Ban against polygamy instituted by R. Gershom* was only going to be enforced for One Thousand Years. How come no one announced when it ended, and how come no one celebrated?

*German rabbi, scholar, and religious poet Gershom ben Judah (ca. 950-1028) exerted a great influence on Jewish social institutions. He is also known as Rabbenu Gershom and Meor Ha-Golah, “Light of the Exile.” 

Who’s Kinky?

Some of the uptightest (unfortunate word choice, perhaps) badass frumies I know are ftm shomer negiah – ba’al teshuvas. They’re welcome here too, of course, and I hope this becomes their preferred trans shiduch site. Surely, there can’t be that many other sites, can there? I know that does not yet have a category of the transgendered. Anyway, back to the point I was making. Is transgender a kink by definition, and should it be included in under the general rubric of kink; whaddya think?